The best of me is my husband.
He's funny, smart, bold, handsome, a great father, strong husband. . . all the things a gal could ask for I have found in him.
Now, we are not perfect. Oh goodness no we are not. Eeek far from it.
We've said mean things to each other, felt vindictive towards one another, thought why don't we just get a divorce this is crazy staying here.
But loving our spouse well grows in those hard times.
Its easy to quit. Its hard to stay.
Its easy to be mean after yet again the clothes are on the floor instead of the laundry basket THAT IS RIGHT THERE!!!!
Ladies, you really want the key to loving your husband well?
Respect him and pray for him. Those are two key things I've found that have made our marriage better from my end.
Being a very young wife I had I went through many trial and errors of how to love Cesar well. Being mean or rude because he didn't do something I wanted to in the time I wanted it to be done isn't helpful.
He's not perfect. God didn't make him that way. So I had to stop demanding that he be. When I choose to respect him I'm loving him the way God called me to.
Next to love your husband well you have to be willing to pray for him. There was a time 2 years ago when I was so distraught I was ready to pack my bags and leave. I called my friend who took me out for some coffee and she challenged me to pray for him everyday until things changed. To pray that God would transform him in His heavenly and holy timing not mine. You know she called me everyday for about 3 months on my lunch break to pray over him.
Time well spent I say.
There's plenty of other ways to love your husband well. Check out the 5 Love languages study. We did this at church one year. They say that everyone has 2 major ways they feel loved. Usually those 2 ways are more evident by the way they show love to others.
For example, my husband feels most loved with words of affirmation. Which goes along the lines of me respecting him and saying nice things to him. He feels most loved this way.
Listen to his thoughts too. Do things he wants to too.
Marriage is hard and get stale over time date him like you did when you first met. Wear that favorite outfit he loves seeing you in and go have pizza on the beach or go to eat somewhere.
If you've been married for a while tuck a sweet note in his wallet. Challenge yourself to say at least one nice thing to him a week.
Loving your spouse well doesn't have to be expensive, material, or being fake. However much you pour into your marriage is what you will get out in return.
Look for ways you can bless him as his loving wife and that's how you will love him well.
Make this Valentines Day's one to remember.
Mi amor I love you my crazy man you :)